How to be single and happy after a long relationship ends

How to be single and happy after a long relationship ends

Lifestyle- If you have recently become single after a long relationship, you already know it isn’t easy. Even if you were the one who chose to end the relationship, being single can come as quite the shock after being committed to someone for a long period of time. There will be times you hurt, times you doubt yourself, and times you just don’t know what to do. Your ex was probably the person you turned to for everything that came up in your life, and now that person is gone. Whether you were ready for it or not, your life is going to look a lot different now that you are single.

Give Yourself Time to Mourn

Letting go of a long relationship can be complicated. It can feel the same as a death. The grieving process is going to be in full effect after losing a long time significant other. If you deny yourself the ability to go through each step, you’ll only prolong the mourning. Go ahead and let yourself grieve, Cry, Curse. Feel all of the feelings that you want and need to feel. You may find yourself going through all of the same stages of grief as you would if your partner had died. Don’t rush the process. It takes time.

Spend Time Doing the Things You Enjoy

The absolute quickest way to rebound after a breakup is to focus on yourself. Find the activities you used to enjoy when you were single. Sign up for some group activities or invite an old pal to join you. Spend time with yourself. Read a few good books. Go to the movies. Get active! Whatever it is you do, just try to enjoy yourself.


 Delete Your Ex from Social Media

Please do yourself a favor and stop following your ex on all social media accounts. You don’t have to un-friend them right away if you don’t want to (although I do strongly recommend you do so after a while), but remove them from your newsfeed. The last thing you need to see is evidence that your ex is moving on while you aren’t.

Do Not Try To Be Friends with Your Ex Right Away

Even if your relationship ended on friendly terms, you are not true friends. It is impossible to be friends with your ex right after a long term relationship breakup. You will both be reeling with painful emotions. Your ex might have even said that they want to stay friends, but trust me – he or she was just trying to spare your feelings.

You Don’t Need To Date Right Away

It may be tempting to jump right back into the dating scene, but try to resist that urge. You won’t be ready to get back into a relationship, and you may end up hurting someone else. While a few casual dates won’t hurt anyone, the best practice is to enjoy being single and learn to spend time alone. When you enter back into the dating pool later on, you’ll be much better equipped emotionally.