LIFESTYLE- Making up after an argument in your relationship is often hard.It can lead to bigger questions about why you’re arguing with your partner.
If you find that you’re fighting a lot in your relationship, there might be an underlying issue that you need to address.
While it’s important to have things in common with that special someone in your life, nobody wants a partner who agrees with them on everything all the time.
1. Give It Some Time
Trying to make up with someone immediately after an argument is never going to work.
If you’re both feeling hurt or angry, a quick reconciliation might ease the initial upset, but it won’t solve any long-term issues.
You’ll only be comforting each other and reassuring yourselves that things are fine and that this fight isn’t the end of the world, or your relationship!
To actually make up with someone after a fight, you need time to cool off and process what’s happened.
2. Apologize – If You Need To
Apologizing is one of the biggest ways you can make it up to someone.
Taking responsibility for what you’ve done is key when it comes to having healthy relationship It may be that you have done something ‘wrong’ that you should be sorry for – in which case, make it clear that you understand how your actions have upset your partner and resolve to not do whatever it was again.
3. Don’t Hold A Grudge!
It’s easier said than done, obviously, but not holding a grudge is the fairest way to resolve an argument with your partner.
By holding on to something you’re upset about, you’re letting your partner know that you essentially haven’t forgiven them for it.
This may lead to bigger issues around insecurities, which can quickly spiral into much more.
By both agreeing to let go and move on, you’re giving each other respect and showing that you value the relationship.
4. Listen To Each Other
Resolving your fight is a two-person job, so you both need to be working toward it.
Some fights can be beneficial to strengthening your relationship, so don’t assume the worst and think that you’re doomed!
By talking things out together, you’ll find out why you or your partner got so upset.
Listening is the key word here!
5. Communication Is Key
Communicate how you’re feeling, as you’re both likely to be struggling with similar things.
This will help you both avoid things boiling over again.
Rather than bottling up your stresses, either about the relationship itself or the new goals you’ve set, you should discuss them.
This is a healthy way to work toward the results that you both want.
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