The Major Fights That Mean You Should Probably Break Up

The Major Fights That Mean You Should Probably Break Up

LIFESTYLE- Breaking up can be hard to do. Sometimes people end up in relationships they know aren’t right, but they stay because it just seems easier in some way. Despite how much you want to deny it, there are major relationship fights that mean you should break up with your SO, and fights over certain topics simply shouldn’t be ignored. 

1. One Partner Is Regularly Dishonest

Honesty is so important in a relationship, but I’m sure I don’t need to tell you that twice. Of course, there will be white lies here and there (i.e., “That new haircut looks great, babe”), but for the most part couples should strive to be open and honest with one another. If you and your partner are regularly fighting because one of you is dishonest when it comes to the big things — like where you spent the night — signs could be pointing towards a breakup.

“Relationships thrive when there is cooperation, and a mutual exchange of curiosity and admiration,”

2. You Want Different Things From The Relationship

When you and your partner find you’re constantly fighting about your future, it’s time to take a closer look at whether you’re with the right person. “It is inevitable that couples will argue and disagree, neither of which is necessarily cause for breaking up.However, two individuals should rethink their relationship if they find themselves arguing about fundamental, irreconcilable, and unchangeable differences in the values they hold important, which may include themes such as monogamy and the desire to have children.”

3. You Feel As Though Your Values Are Being Compromised

When fights start to pop up because you feel your values are being compromised in your relationship, this is a red flag.”No two people need to be carbon copies of each other and it’s certainly OK to differ on your opinion about certain subjects, but if you can’t find any common ground on your values regarding things like child-rearing, trust, loyalty and family, the relationship will have a hard time lasting.

4. One Of  You Has Jealousy Or Control Issues

Jealously has a bad connotation for a reason — it can play against a relationship in a big way. Fights due to jealously can tear a relationship apart and may even lead to controlling behavior.”If you’re in a relationship where you are constantly fighting about feeling controlled, you shouldn’t be together long-term. It usually means your partner doesn’t feel confident about themselves and needs to control you to feel better about themselves.”

5. Your Goals For The Future Don’t Align At All

When two people have hopes and aspirations that differ, it’s difficult for a relationship to overcome it, particularly when it starts causing huge fights relevant to the topic. For instance, money tends to be a source of problems for many couples. If one partner wants to save money for a future with kids and a nice house, but the other isn’t on the same page, it’s going to cause problems. “If you find yourself consistently being questioned on how you spend money, this is a relationship to get out of.

7. You Say Things That Are Mean Or Extremely Hurtful

Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes you really can’t help what you say in the heat of the moment.Signs of an unhealthy conflict are when one or both parties inflict damage, create a deliberate lack of safety, or make comments that threaten the stability of the relationship.

8. Your Partner Blames You For Everything

If you’re being consistently ignored, belittled, disregarded, or criticized, it may mean the end of your relationship. “Partners who repeatedly blame the other person, while refusing to take any responsibility for their own actions, are not safe. This includes people who insist on being the victim in the relationship, instead of taking responsibility for standing up for themselves or clearly stating what they want. Safe relationships don’t require mind-reading. They require a willingness to have conflicts that adhere to safety rules.”

9. One Of You Can’t Keep Your Eyes From Wandering

 If you and your partner are constantly arguing over one of you having a wandering eye, you might want to reevaluate the relationship.”It isn’t likely that a relationship will last if a partner consistently betrays the relationship, either through emotional or physical infidelity, without remorse or working with a therapist to stop these behaviors.”

10. One Or Both Of You Isn’t Happy

 You’re in a relationship that used to make you super happy, and for some reason that you can’t really explain, it doesn’t make you happy at all anymore.

If feeling under-appreciated or unseen in your relationship is making you feel unhappy, it’s important to talk to your partner about it. If nothing changes, then it may be time to consider breaking up.

11. It’s The Same Fight Over And Over… And Over Lastly, if you and your partner are constantly having the same fight over and over and nothing is changing for the better, it could mean things are moving towards the end.The key ingredient in any relationship is the ability and the willingness to work through issues.

“If your partner is not interested in trying to work things out and turns a deaf ear to your concerns and upsets, this is a relationship that will not sustain the test of time and one you should leave.